Great telling of a real-life experience. Thank you! Reading it brough back thoughts of Robert Pirsig's "Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance". What stuck with me from the book was that impatience occurs when something takes longer (or costs more, or does not work as well) than we think it should. As a result, I have experienced countless situations where the outlook improved dramatically simply by "reframing" my perception of that situation.
Lack of patience in life is a killer. I could do a talk on this. I am, for the most part, really patient, but I haven't always been and I've seen many people in life struggle because they are not.
- Many smarter individuals than I fail because of impatience.
- Many better-qualified people fail because of the same impatience.
Lack of patience is a killer. My advice for everyone is to try to improve things that impact many aspects of a person's life.
What I mean by that is that many people will try to be better parents, spouses, or employees. This is singularly focused and any one of these could take considerable time and may not work as well as intended.
If you work on one thing that impacts self, it can really do a lot of heavy lifting. Like a core trait. Like patience.
Improving patience will improve your marriage, your parenting, your work habits, and more. It's not about focusing on one thing. It's about focusing on ones self. I know this because I have done it.
There are other things in life that fit into this as well.
Habit building in general is good.
The patience one is a great example though.
Health is probably another good one.
Not "I'm going to diet more".
Or "Exercise more".
Focus on being healthy, period. That is probably not as solid as the patience one but it will get you far because being helathier translates to less bad choices and usually getting rid of thiose means more healthy and that means person has more stamina, more energy, clearer thoughts, a friendlier demeanor, etc, etc.
Self-improvement is the best thing you can do for others and most will never get that.
Great telling of a real-life experience. Thank you! Reading it brough back thoughts of Robert Pirsig's "Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance". What stuck with me from the book was that impatience occurs when something takes longer (or costs more, or does not work as well) than we think it should. As a result, I have experienced countless situations where the outlook improved dramatically simply by "reframing" my perception of that situation.
Lack of patience in life is a killer. I could do a talk on this. I am, for the most part, really patient, but I haven't always been and I've seen many people in life struggle because they are not.
- Many smarter individuals than I fail because of impatience.
- Many better-qualified people fail because of the same impatience.
Lack of patience is a killer. My advice for everyone is to try to improve things that impact many aspects of a person's life.
What I mean by that is that many people will try to be better parents, spouses, or employees. This is singularly focused and any one of these could take considerable time and may not work as well as intended.
If you work on one thing that impacts self, it can really do a lot of heavy lifting. Like a core trait. Like patience.
Improving patience will improve your marriage, your parenting, your work habits, and more. It's not about focusing on one thing. It's about focusing on ones self. I know this because I have done it.
There are other things in life that fit into this as well.
Habit building in general is good.
The patience one is a great example though.
Health is probably another good one.
Not "I'm going to diet more".
Or "Exercise more".
Focus on being healthy, period. That is probably not as solid as the patience one but it will get you far because being helathier translates to less bad choices and usually getting rid of thiose means more healthy and that means person has more stamina, more energy, clearer thoughts, a friendlier demeanor, etc, etc.
Self-improvement is the best thing you can do for others and most will never get that.
Anyway, I'll get off my soap box. lol
Beautiful systems thinking in action Mr.Arnell.
Thanks, Mark!